How good is speed dating!?

The short answer is very.........

The longer answer is very, at first I was like "oh man I brought this when I was drunk". "Shit ill never do this". My mind was brimming with a load of negativity it wasnt good I was anexious. It was shit. I decided I needed to man up; I thought of the positives like hay ill meet people, hay I might meet friendly girls etc. The negatives where still there, but they where lessened by the positivity.

The teachings of this so far: This negativity is called Annexiety. Without blowing my own horn as im writing this to teach others (and to record it for myself) the positive thinking that followed helped block out this anexiety and thus I went to this event; anyway...........

We got there and my friend we will call ihm big tom, was drinking alcohol. I was drinking Cola (no alcohol I wanted off that). Anyway he turns to me and says rather loudly in a half farmer half brummie accent "lets go get some condoms hay". Or something similar. I was a little taken back by this:

1. I had condoms

2. I didnt want to share

3. We are in a union bar loads of people are around, do it slyly, id accept it, but this dude!

Anyway after this event the anexiety kicked back in, I was like man this is embaressing shit I could be playing pool etc. Anyway it began and in the people I met where all real cool the following points could be useful though:

1. Approach quick, approach fast, Dont hesitate, we are all in the same situation anywhere, anytime! I now see this includes clubs, pubs, bars etc. We are all out and people are out to have a give time if YOU help with this your in.

2. Make her laugh.......Again this got me results because when you get someone to laugh it helps her to relax and she will think your fun and active, dull people cant make people laugh (well they can but its like you what ha.....ha (you know what I mean))

3. Mention interests and be interested about them if that makes any sense. People can have an interest like say stamps, but not the passion behind them. You can make any passion interesting, in a variation of ways. A good way to do this is speak with the passion of the hobbie behind what your saying.....e.g. I love karate, oh man its sooooo physical. Also from making statements such as these new conversations can arise. Like your life activities/her life activities.

4. If she talks about herself your life is made easier. Ok im lazy, if I can sit back whilst someone natters with me and I just add the occasional wow or ok or statement in that keeps her going its good. In this case the interactions only went on for two minutes at a time, but in a bigger scenario, if your interesting and passionate and want to give not take you can do that and stay in those kinds of interactions all day!

5. Dont do questions all the time- I did this a few times and it literally is like putting a siev under the both of you and draining the energy away, you begin to feel bored so will she and then youll sit there (and make your excuses like "what are we supposed to talk about now"? Also she might get bitchy as she blames the negatvity on you; you are after all the leader.

I could probably come up with more bad and good comments about this evening all night! I was a bit gutted though that I didnt win best dressed, I had a pink shirt and everything!

Chris.